The Blues.

Lately. Days have been harder. I’ve woken up feeling sad, unmotivated or “muted”. Like I am just going through the motions. It hasn’t been a full week of it, and I am not dwelling on it. 

I talked to my Dad about it. It could be simply emotions from my Grampa passing. It could be Seasonal Affective Disorder, which actually is quite interesting and you can read about it here. It could be, God forbid, hormonal. 

But whatever it is, I’m being as proactive about it as possible. And I thought I’d share my sadness combating techniques!

 

  1. Go for a walk.  Bundle up, grab the dog’s leash, put on your sunglasses. Get out and get moving and breathe in some fresh air.
  2. Do something for someone else. It almost always works for me.
  3. Paint your toenails. When I was in middle school I read a silly little article about cheering yourself up in a magazine. They suggested painting your nails something bright. And it’s been a little habit ever since!
  4. Eat your vitamins. I always feel a bit off balance if I don’t take mine.
  5. Escape. Read a book. Go for a drive to a part of town you don’t know many people. Treat yourself to coffee. Buy yourself flowers.
  6. Listen to music that makes you smile. It’s too easy to get sadder and over-think everything if you’re listening to sad tunes.
  7. Eat chocolate. (In case it’s the Dementors gettin’ you down)
  8. Check something off your to-do list. Doesn’t have to be big. Just do that one little thing to make you feel like you were productive and it might lift you up just enough.
  9. Call someone. Not text. Call. Better yet, meet someone for a chat. Focusing on someone else, or talking about what could be getting you down can really make you feel lighter. I always call my Dad because he’s sensible and logical and just sensitive enough to “get it”.
  10. Just be the emotion. Are you hurt? Are you sad? Are you angry? Resentful? Do you feel like crying? Do it. The release of tears is a chemical reliever for the body and you might have just needed a good cry! 

And there’s my list! I’ve done almost everything on that list to get myself back up there. Some days it works better than others. I try not to give myself too much time unoccupied because I know myself, and I know that I’ll get down or lonely feeling. 

Do you have any go to tricks to boost your mood?

 

Well I hope your evening is lovely and thank you for dropping by to read my sporadic posts! ❤

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How to Travel Alone [in Sad Situations]

There are many different kinds of travelers: the vacationers, the family trips, the business trips and sometimes people (like me, today) are traveling  due to family emergency. I have never travelled for any other reason than a positive one, but this trip to see my grandpa has made me aware of all the reasons behind people’s travelling.
I have a three hour layover today. So I decided to write a quick how to post to keep me occupied.

First. When traveling via plane: bring gum. It can help “pop” your ears  as well as keep your breath from offending people. Pick mint flavor (unless you hate minti suppose) as it may keep your stomach settled.

Second. In case of a long layover bring a favorite pick-me-up movie to keep you smiling and engaged in something.

Third. Get coffee and food and sit in the sun. Surround yourself with strangers.

Fourth . Remember strangers can be annoying. Pack headphones. Listen to happy music you could sing along to. 

Fifth. This is very important. Do not think deeply on any subject. Be calm and objective, resting on thoughts for only moments. Notice your surroundings; be as curious as a five year old: wonder how things work. (Bonus points for googling it and finding out how it works)

Sixth. When you reach your destination. Hug your family tightly. Accept sadness. Accept every feeling no matter the sense of them. Support and lean on those around you. No matter how tempting, do not disengage. Continue to live in the now. Above all, love your family and keep in touch with them. Even if you “just don’t feel like calling today”. Do it anyway.

Now Is Not the Time

Now is not the time to feel off. Everything feels like sandpaper, nothing is going smoothly, everything grinds against something else.  My nerves are shot, my patience has gone to hell, and that doesn’t prevent the perpetual restlessness and petty irritation that exhausts me by days’ end.

Do you ever feel like that?  Like the only way you can get a moment of air would be to lock yourself in a room and destroy your phone?

Let’s see if I can dredge up any tips for relaxation and focus:

Here’s  some, thanks entrepreneur.com!

1. Count your breaths

2. Sing

3. Drink some water

4. Laugh out loud.

They have more on their list and they give explanations unlike me! So please follow the link if you want more!

Another one I’ve heard is to smile. The muscle’s activating in your face make you feel like you’re happy.

Well, that’s all I’ve got tonight! Sorry for the half-hearted post folks, I’ve got a midterm to start, textbooks to read and I have to meet friends tonight!

Hope your evening is relaxing, stress-free and happy!